[09:10] Pirate Russell:
[09:10] Pirate Russell: Ok, those that will, please turn off any radars, MystiTools, etc.
[09:10] Minakothegothicgeisha Kamachi is Online
[09:11] Pirate Russell sighs, hang on a second, this thing didn't work last week, either.....
[09:11] Pirate Russell: Please take all cross talk to IM, and all collar, etc commands to the secondary channels!
[09:11] Pirate Russell: There it goes.. he he
[09:11] Pirate Russell: Welcome to House of V's College of Kink! As most of y'all know, My name is Pirate Russell, Head Mistress of the College, and today's instructor. I have been in SL for 3 years, a lesbian Domme, the entire time.
[09:12] Pirate Russell: For any that need to leave early, all transcripts can be found at http://collegeofkink.blogspot.com
[09:12] Pirate Russell: And for a change, they're caught up!
[09:12] Pirate Russell: What Is Submission?
[09:12] Pirate Russell: Author: Raven Shadowborne © 1997
[09:12] Pirate Russell: Submission: (by definition) the act of granting power to another
[09:13] Pirate Russell: A rather frightening prospect for most people. To give control of yourself to someone else. The act of submitting is part of the power exchange inherent within a D/s relationship.
[09:13] Pirate Russell: It is the giving of yourself to another within preset limits, arranged before hand.
[09:13] Pirate Russell: It is an informed choice and therefor consensual. A person shouldn't just decide to submit to the first dominant they meet.
[09:13] Pirate Russell: A submissive should take the time to get to know the dominant outside the roles of dominant and submissive, as the person he/she is.
[09:14] Pirate Russell: With the information gathered during that initial learning of each other process, the submissive can then make an informed decision of whether or not to submit to that dominant.
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[09:14] Pirate Russell: This process should include discussions of expectations, wants, needs and desires.
[09:14] Pirate Russell: Each submissive must decide for themselves how far they are willing to go and still stay within the guidelines of safe sane and consensual, thereby not crossing into the realm of abuse.
[09:14] Pirate Russell: The three tenets of D/s must always apply for the submission to be true submission and not abuse.
[09:15] Pirate Russell: Why a person is submissive varies extensively from person to person. Some are submissive just for a little extra zing in their intimate lives. Others may have a deep psychological need that prevents them from being any other way.
[09:15] Pirate Russell: There are three main types of submissives There are more concise groupings than these three broad ones, as evidenced by the 9 levels of submission that are widely used and referred to in many books and discussions of D/s.
[09:15] Pirate Russell: ~A: Sexual Submissive (AKA bottom, sensual submissive)
[09:16] Pirate Russell: A sexual sub is in D/s for their own sexual gratification. Once their sexual needs are met they are satisfied. They feel no real need to submit any personal control to another.
[09:16] Pirate Russell: ~B: Psychological Submissive
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[09:16] Pirate Russell: This broad category tends to include those who are in it for the pain and humiliation a D/s relationship can give them.
[09:16] Pirate Russell: This category tends to include most masochists. Those who have suffered real abuse and are stuck in victim mode, tend to end up in this category.
[09:16] Pirate Russell: ~C: Natural Submissive (AKA True Submissive)
[09:17] Pirate Russell: she/he is born with a submissive nature. A need to please others. This need and submissive tendency goes beyond sexual gratification.
[09:17] Pirate Russell: It is in their nature to please others, and they will readily give up their control to another with very little or no urging from their dominant.
[09:17] Pirate Russell: Who's to say which category is best?
[09:17] Pirate Russell: Being submissive is unique and you are an individual. Being submissive comes from the heart. It can not be believably faked, acted or role played.
[09:18] Pirate Russell: True submission is a gift of high value. It is my opinion that those in the lifestyle should not judge any one else within the lifestyle for their choices.
[09:18] Pirate Russell: Who are we to say that a sexual sub is not submissive on a different level? Or that there can only be one type of submissive? Remember, life is full of small variances and innuendoes, so is D/s.
[09:18] Pirate Russell: I'm going to finish up with the submissive Bill of Rights. Remember that submissives are not doormats they are people, strong enough to give themselves to another person, let someone else tell them, make them, watch them do what they're told!
[09:19] Pirate Russell: submissive Bill of Rights:
[09:19] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to be treated with courtesy.
[09:19] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to be treated with respect.
[09:19] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to express feelings, whether good or bad.
[09:20] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to disagree and express disagreement.
[09:20] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to stand up for your beliefs, values and morals.
[09:20] Pirate Russell: ~you have a right to retain your self respect and self worth.
[09:20] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to say No.
[09:21] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to walk away from an unhealthy situation.
[09:21] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to be treated as an intelligent, thinking person, entitled to your feelings.
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[09:21] Pirate Russell: ~you have the right to make mistakes and ask those mistakes to be forgiven.
[09:22] Pirate Russell: All transcripts can be found at http://collegeofkink.blogspot.com
[09:22] Pirate Russell: College of Kink classes Monday, Tuesday, Thursday & Friday @ 7a, Monday & Thursday 12:30a.
[09:22] Pirate Russell: Y/you could always check the Search/Events and look for College or Join House of V Friends, or House of V groups, for notices immediately before the classes.
[09:22] Pirate Russell: Actually the class times have changed
[09:22] MystiTool HUD 1.3.1: [Naomi Gustafson - Ch.1]: ngrelease
[09:22] Pirate Russell: Tues/Fri 7am lcasses are at 9... he he
[09:22] Pirate Russell: Questions, Comments???
[09:22] Pirate Russell: SpeakEasy HUD detaching...
[09:24] Pirate Russell: No questions?? No comments??
[09:24] Tristan Mohindi: I have a general question to pose, that may be somewhat off topic but something you said made me think about it.
[09:24] Naomi Gustafson: Thank you Ms Russell.
[09:24] Pirate Russell: Go right ahead, Tristan!
[09:24] MystiTool HUD 1.3.1: [Naomi Gustafson - Ch.1]: ao on
[09:24] Pirate Russell: We rarely stay on topic
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[09:25] Tristan Mohindi: I live my life in the world of D/s by what I see as being the tennant of SSC....while safety and consensuality are pretty objective, isn't there some degree of subjectivism to the "sane" component?
[09:25] Tristan Mohindi: and is there a general accepted definition of sane in this contrext?
[09:25] Chakota Hutchence chuckles
[09:26] Pirate Russell: Let's see, actually I think it is subjective...
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[09:26] Tristan Mohindi: As I see the sane part falls under the ruebrick of consensuality
[09:26] Pirate Russell: Just like when to use a safe word....
[09:26] Pirate Russell: My safe word would be "Ow!"
[09:26] Chakota Hutchence: .....try the sanity of the "act"...not the person
[09:27] Pirate Russell: where kle might LOVE her ass beat 'till it bleeds
[09:27] Tristan Mohindi: well yes exactly
[09:27] Kle Edman: :)
[09:27] Pirate Russell: Each D/s relationship is just that a RELATIONSHIP
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[09:27] Pirate Russell: It's as different as the people, and farm animals that are in it
[09:28] Tristan Mohindi: point in progress.
[09:28] Pirate Russell: But each relationship takes COMMUNICATION
[09:28] Tristan Mohindi: agreed whole heartedly
[09:29] Pirate Russell: And in a Power Exchange relationship it takes that up-fron negotiation. How do I know what Scouse likes, if I dont' talk to her, even if it's a 'one dungeon stand'
[09:29] Pirate Russell: or what she won't do?
[09:30] Tristan Mohindi nods
[09:30] Pirate Russell: Heck, I could end up trying to beat a Dominant, if I didn't chat first....
[09:30] Tristan Mohindi: Unfortuantely there are "dominants" out there who seem to forget the "Exchange" part of TPE and take a my way or the high way mentality, foregoing real communication
[09:31] Pirate Russell: Those "dominants", sorry fellas, but they're USUALLY males, who thing a subby is just a whipping post and a screw-toy
[09:31] Tristan Mohindi: the doormat
[09:31] Pirate Russell: They use BDSM as an easy piece of tail
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[09:32] Kle Edman nods
[09:32] Chakota Hutchence: and those males are not likely dominants
[09:32] Tristan Mohindi: hence the " "
[09:32] Pirate Russell: Yes, but as W/we saw in the Bill of Righs... subbies have the RIGHT to not be a doormat
[09:33] Pirate Russell: I have no problem with hearin, "Ma'am, I'm a submissive, but not Your submissive"
[09:33] Tristan Mohindi: right
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[09:33] Tristan Mohindi: being a submissive does not by default entail being public domain
[09:33] Pirate Russell: And this abusive dom/doormat subbie is why I took this job last July!
[09:34] Tristan Mohindi smiles
[09:34] Pirate Russell: Exactly Tristan, but... if that's your kink..... rock on! Nothing wrong with it if that's what gets ya off!
[09:34] Tristan Mohindi: no not my kink...just for clarification
[09:34] Tristan Mohindi: that is why I chose this meeting as the first to attend
[09:35] Gina Roth is Online
[09:35] Pirate Russell: He heI have agirl that loves to be the lowest of the low, so I forbid her from even OWNING any clothing
[09:35] Tristan Mohindi: the gift of submission is something to be cherrished and not spread around like raspberry preserves
[09:35] Pirate Russell: Boy, do I envy her inventory!
[09:35] Tristan Mohindi: easy to manage I bet
[09:35] Pirate Russell: he he, yep
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[09:36] Pirate Russell: And, btw, Tristan, next week is "Responsibilities of Dominance" he he
[09:36] Pirate Russell: Welcome hunter
[09:36] Tristan Mohindi: another great topic
[09:36] Pirate Russell: er Hunter
[09:37] Huntur Moore: or Hun... too. hehe. hello
[09:37] Pirate Russell: Ok, Hi Hun... too!
[09:37] Pirate Russell: LOL, sorry, coldn't resist
[09:37] Huntur Moore: :)
[09:38] Pirate Russell: Anyway, we're in the Q & A part of the "The Gift Of submission"
[09:38] Pirate Russell: But W/we're straying far afield... he he
[09:39] Pirate Russell: So... any more questions, comments, girls that wanna strip?
[09:39] Huntur Moore: lol
[09:40] Kle Edman: Miss, you mentioned the 3 types of submissives, but within those types there are variations in intensity
[09:41] Pirate Russell: Absolutely, goes back to My safe word, "ow" and someone else who, in SL anyway, doesn't have or use them
[09:42] Kle Edman: a natural sub could be just mildly into it for instance
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[09:42] Pirate Russell: It actually goes to what makes EACH of us happy
[09:43] Kle Edman: I guess my question is - can that level be changed by the dom/domme?
[09:43] Kle Edman: or is it a fixed part of a sub's personality?
[09:43] Pirate Russell: Yes, that's true, kle... well maybe nto the natural sub, that's the one that is the 'true submissive'. Into it for the actual submission, not for sex, or for the feeling of bondage, etc
[09:43] Pirate Russell: Well, yes and no
[09:44] Pirate Russell: A bad Dominant can sure make you wanna be a frog somewhere.... and a Goooooood Dominant will engender trust, and posibly take you a little further than you planned.... pushing the envelope, so to speak
[09:45] Huntur Moore: communication and trust. sounds like good foundations to a good D/s relationship.
[09:46] Pirate Russell: Actually, Hunter, it's true of ANY relationship, BDSM or Vanilla, Personal or Business
[09:46] Tristan Mohindi nods
[09:46] Huntur Moore: *Nods in agreement*
[09:47] Huntur Moore: however... i do conduct business with some shady characters. lol
[09:47] Muffin Margulies: honesty is another bit of a good foundation
[09:47] Pirate Russell: how do you know how much a tires is without communicaiton....
[09:47] Pirate Russell: How do you know what kle wants in a Scene, if there's no communicaitno?
[09:47] Pirate Russell: or communication... he he
[09:47] Huntur Moore: phew... i thought she was going spanish on us
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[09:48] Pirate Russell: No, Italian, maybe, but not spanish
[09:49] Pirate Russell: communicazione!
[09:49] Huntur Moore: hehe
[09:50] Huntur Moore: its a highly negotiated affair... the D/s relationship. is it not
[09:50] Pirate Russell: If done right, yes. I did touch on this earlier, but it's so important, I'll do it again
[09:51] Pirate Russell: If I meet up with some sub, in a dungeon, randomly....
[09:51] Huntur Moore: sry. those dam stragglers.. always walking in late.. making everyone repeat things. :D
[09:51] Pirate Russell: if we dont' talk for at least a couple min, I don't know her likes.... her limits
[09:53] Huntur Moore: you know what confuses me. its a complicated exchange... any relationship is... my confusion is how some D's can juggle like 3 or 4 subs under 1 roof. seems like controlled chaos to me.
[09:53] Pirate Russell whispers: EEP, sorryto the male subbies here.... ".... their limits"
[09:53] Pirate Russell does that, actually, I have 3 core subbies and a few that show up occaisonally (logging on to SL) and some subbie friends that I like to play with
[09:54] Jessi Escape is Online
[09:54] Huntur Moore: but all in 1 room at once? or individually at separate times
[09:54] Pirate Russell: And 2 of 3 of them, are pretty.... forgiving in the 'share dept'.
[09:54] Pirate Russell: Yes, Hunter
[09:55] Pirate Russell: Sometimes together, sometimes individually, sometimea a mix of friends and Mine....
[09:55] Pirate Russell: Sometime with Vanilla or other Dommes
[09:55] Kle Edman: that sounds like quite a party Miss :)
[09:56] Huntur Moore: then what am i missing. i seem to get involved with highly jealous subs
[09:56] Pirate Russell: It usualy is, red, it usually is!
[09:56] Huntur Moore: then #2 shows up, its difficult
[09:56] Pirate Russell: Well, My final rule when I talk about collaring a girl is:
[09:56] Pirate Russell: Rule 7) Enjoy being SEXUALLY MOLESTED by Me, knowing that the girl is not My only pet, friend or play-thing, and that she may be shared with her sisters, and My friends!
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[09:57] Pirate Russell: Now, I have had girls that thought they were My one and only, or thought they could work inot that position
[09:57] Huntur Moore: *listens closely*
[09:57] Pirate Russell: I have a one and only in RL
[09:58] Pirate Russell: Dont' want that in SL
[09:58] Pirate Russell: So if they can't handle that, then the door's right over there
[09:58] Huntur Moore: so laying down the rule... how its gonna be.. early on is key
[09:59] Pirate Russell: Has been for Me, started out with 5 Rules, that's the last one I had to add, and that was about 2 yrs ago
[10:00] Huntur Moore: what are your first 6? if I may
[10:00] Pirate Russell:
[10:00] Huntur Moore: :)
[10:00] Pirate Russell: Pirate's Rules Of Conduct
[10:01] Pirate Russell: Rule 1 is RL comes first, no matter what, this rule is My one ABSOLUTE, and I've needed to break it up into 2 parts
[10:01] Pirate Russell: Rule 1a) This is a "game". If you have Real Life issues they come first! If girl must leave My presence, simply say "Rule 1" and handle life, whether it be AFK, or logging.
[10:01] Pirate Russell: Rule 1b) Since this is a "game", if you're not having fun, tell Me, we'll do something else, or we'll play separately for a while, or for good. But please TELL ME!
[10:01] Huntur Moore: oh no! RL associates should understand that toons come first!! say its not so. *snickers*
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[10:01] Pirate Russell: next are standard...
[10:01] Huntur Moore: 1b = awesome sub rule
[10:01] Pirate Russell: Rule 2) I am always right!
Rule 3) If girl perceves Me to be wrong, see Rule 2. Standard stuff, but if I'm making a total ass of Myself..... Tell Me in IM, I am pretty proficient at making an ass of Myrself!
[10:01] Top Friends v1.12: amy Trenchmouth (Friends) is online
[10:02] Pirate Russell: Rule 4) When I'm in game, you will be available to Me, unconditionally. This does not mean you will be at My feet 24 X 7, but if I want you, you WILL come! I do make allowances for SL work, being with friends, subs, etc.
[10:02] Pirate Russell: ((another one that communication is VITAL in))
[10:02] Pirate Russell: Rule 5) When you're in game, and I'm not, conduct yourself in a way that would make Me proud of you. girl will wear the collar at ALL times, have a mention about Me in girl's profile, at the begining of the 2nd Life page, and allow Me to track girl on the map.
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[10:03] Pirate Russell: Rule 6) thou shalt have no other dommes, or doms, before Me.
[10:03] Huntur Moore: /claps
[10:03] Maya Owatatsumi is Online
[10:03] Pirate Russell: And then you saw
[10:03] Pirate Russell: 7
[10:04] Huntur Moore: tyvm for sharing that
[10:04] Tristan Mohindi laughs
[10:04] Tristan Mohindi: That is a great title
[10:05] Pirate Russell: Worked on it for 2 yrs! He he
[10:05] Pirate Russell: Well, our Hour is about up, any last questions?
[10:05] Huntur Moore: yes
[10:05] Huntur Moore: is there a tip jar?
[10:05] Huntur Moore: :)
[10:06] Pirate Russell: Sort of...
[10:06] Cynthia Ohara is Offline
[10:06] Huntur Moore: insert bills into your panties right?
[10:06] Pirate Russell: PLEASE if any are inclned to tip, go to West of Ireland, and donate to Project Children
[10:06] Pirate Russell: Ummmm..... that would be tough!
[10:06] Pirate Russell doesn't wear panties
[10:07] Huntur Moore: yup.. dam tough. almost as tough as going to Ireland
[10:07] Pirate Russell: See!
[10:07] Huntur Moore: *whistles*
[10:08] Huntur Moore: all this knowledge and a show too! you guys are the best
[10:08] Top Friends v1.12: Cynthia Ohara (Friends) is offline
[10:08] Pirate Russell: Class Dismissed!
[10:08] Tristan Mohindi: Thank you Miss Russell
[10:08] Top Friends v1.12: Cynthia Ohara (Friends) is offline
[10:08] Huntur Moore: *takes a bow* yes, tyvm Miss
[10:08] Top Friends v1.12: Cynthia Ohara (Friends) is offline
[10:08] Pirate Russell: Thans to y'all for making it interesting.... I learn stuff EVERY class
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