TPE - Total Power Exchange - 1/16/09

[2009/01/16 13:12] Pirate Russell: Ok, please take all cross talk to IM, and all collar, etc commands to the secondary channels!
[2009/01/16 13:12] Pirate Russell: First, an announcement. This is My last Friday afternoon class. This class will be moving to 7am on Fridays.
[2009/01/16 13:12] Pirate Russell: Welcome to House of V's College of Kink! As most of y'all know, My name is Pirate Russell, Head Mistress of the College, and today's instructor. I have been in SL for 3 years, a lesbian Domme, the entire time.
[2009/01/16 13:12] Pirate Russell: For any that need to leave early, all transcripts can be found at http://collegeofkink.blogspot.com
[2009/01/16 13:13] Pirate Russell: Today's subject is "TPE-Total Power Exchange"
[2009/01/16 13:14] Pirate Russell: (The terms Dominant and submissive, and "she" for "he" are used because it's easier for me to write! Yet TPE applies to all genders, and all sexual and lifestyle orientations.)
[2009/01/16 13:14] Pirate Russell: Total Power Exchange, a.k.a. "consensual slavery," is sometimes a beautiful thing, though it is not for everyone.
[2009/01/16 13:14] Pirate Russell: The term was coined in the mid 1990s on a bondage newsgroup, during a debate between two people on the limits of the Master/slave relationship in real life.
[2009/01/16 13:15] Pirate Russell: The debate has always continued, even today here in our class, because so many haved asked,
[2009/01/16 13:15] Pirate Russell: "How can anyone truly consent to being a slave?"
[2009/01/16 13:15] Pirate Russell: and "How can a Dominant hold so much responsibility in his hands for another person?"
[2009/01/16 13:16] Pirate Russell: ANY D/s relationship - or even a one-scene interaction - is a "power exchange" in that both the Dominant and submissive parties are agreeing to exchange certain things they want for what the other wants.
[2009/01/16 13:16] Pirate Russell: The submissive gives the Dominant power over herself, and the Dominant gives the submissive the amount of control they need and desire.
[2009/01/16 13:17] Pirate Russell: A power exchange is always consensual on both parts, generally with on-going negotiations, safe-words, contracts, etc.
[2009/01/16 13:17] Pirate Russell: In a Total Power Exchange (TPE), the submissive gives the Dominant her consent ONCE, at the beginning of their interaction - be it a 24/7 relationship, or a one-scene encounter.
[2009/01/16 13:17] Pirate Russell: Before she gives that consent, there may be extensive negotiations, and a verbal or written contract.
[2009/01/16 13:18] Pirate Russell: However, after the initial consent, the Dominant has total control over the submisssive, and the submissive may not withdraw their consent.
[2009/01/16 13:18] Pirate Russell: This is why TPE is also known as "consensual slavery," "absolute slavery," or "absolute power exchange."
[2009/01/16 13:19] Pirate Russell: It looks great in words, but TPE gets very complicated after this!
[2009/01/16 13:19] Pirate Russell: There are 24/7 M/s relationships where the people involved agree to a TPE, yet the submissive may use safe-words and seem to have quite a bit of freedom,
[2009/01/16 13:20] Pirate Russell: the Dominant trusting her to carry out her duties in addition to working outside the home, pick her own clothing, care for children, take classes, and anything else that fulfills her.
[2009/01/16 13:21] Pirate Russell: At the other extreme, there are also 24/7 M/s relationships where the submissive has consented to never be allowed a safe-word (needing to use one usually ends the relationship) ...
[2009/01/16 13:21] ***JU***: m/s??
[2009/01/16 13:21] Pirate Russell: this submissive may be micro-managed by her Dominant down to the tiniest detail, she may not be allowed to work outside the home, her clothing (if any) is chosen for her;
[2009/01/16 13:22] Pirate Russell: this generally occurs in households with no children so that the submissive can live 24/7 in what's dubiously called "true" slavery - naked, in chains, not allowed on the furniture without permission, etc. What extremes!
[2009/01/16 13:22] ***IM***: M/s = Master/slave
[2009/01/16 13:23] Pirate Russell: How can they both be TPE?
[2009/01/16 13:23] Pirate Russell: Let's look at that first relationship again ... it sounds like the submissive has a lot of freedom, so how can it be a TPE?
[2009/01/16 13:23] Pirate Russell: Well, any relationship is a TPE if the people involved agree to all the rules only ONCE, with the end of the relationship generally occurring after the rules are broken (by either submissive or Dominant!).
[2009/01/16 13:24] Pirate Russell: The Dominant in the first relationship has absolute control over certain areas of the submissive's life, and she operates "freely" only within the parameters of his absolute control over the whole of her life.
[2009/01/16 13:24] Pirate Russell: This is still "total" in that both parties follow their original contract to the letter, with the Dominant being the only one who can make any changes to the contract as he sees fit (for the health or growth of the submissive and/or the relationship).
[2009/01/16 13:25] Pirate Russell: This submissive may petition for change in an emergency, but in the end, it is at the Dominant's sole discretion.
[2009/01/16 13:25] Pirate Russell: In the end, it all depends on how much responsibility a Dominant wants to take over another person, and how much control a submissive wants to give her Dominant.
[2009/01/16 13:26] Pirate Russell: To truly live in a TPE, the parties involved must absolutely agree on the rules beforehand; the Dominant takes absolute control of the submissive and must keep her healthy, safe and sane;
[2009/01/16 13:26] Pirate Russell: and the submissive gives up all of her rights, perhaps even to safe-word or petition for change ... because of this, an intensely huge amount of trust is involved, for both Dominant and submissive.
[2009/01/16 13:27] Pirate Russell: Citation: Total Power Exchangeby Sadako Shikami
[2009/01/16 13:27] Pirate Russell: Questions, opinions, feelings?
[2009/01/16 13:27] Pirate Russell: All transcripts can be found at http://collegeofkink.blogspot.com
[2009/01/16 13:28] ***LT*** raises her hand.
[2009/01/16 13:28] Pirate Russell: For Class times and topics, Y/you would always check the Search/Events and look for College
[2009/01/16 13:28] Pirate Russell: Yes, ***LT***!
[2009/01/16 13:29] ***LT***: what would a slave/submissive do if her Master wasnt doing His part?
[2009/01/16 13:29] Pirate Russell: That's another class, but under TPE, the "contract" could be voided and she could seek another
[2009/01/16 13:29] Pirate Russell: Or at that point, void the "contract" and renegoiate
[2009/01/16 13:30] ***LT***: Thank You Ma'am. that answered my question
[2009/01/16 13:30] Pirate Russell: Anyone else?
[2009/01/16 13:31] ***IM***: What happens if the Master and slave don't agree that the contract has been voided?
[2009/01/16 13:31] ***KC***: as Mistress and girl's relationship developes W/we are charting new territory and never really had a contract so does that matter
[2009/01/16 13:31] Pirate Russell: Well, D/s being a relationship, there ould HAVE to be some communication
[2009/01/16 13:32] Pirate Russell: Well, substitute "Agreement" for "Contract"
[2009/01/16 13:32] Pirate Russell: That agreement would spell out likes/dislikes/expectations/limits, etc
[2009/01/16 13:32] Pirate Russell: And of course rules
[2009/01/16 13:33] ***KC***: ah ok then it is an ongoing thing with U/us
[2009/01/16 13:33] ***KC***: yes girl has her rules
[2009/01/16 13:33] Pirate Russell: And with U/us, ***IM*** and I just had a modification this week.. ;-)
[2009/01/16 13:34] ***KC***: oh
[2009/01/16 13:35] ***LT***: Throughout the contract...things may happen in ones life where things slow down..where a slave may not feel/have the dominance over her...
[2009/01/16 13:35] ***JU***: can you tell us about it?
[2009/01/16 13:35] ***LT***: how does a salve deal with that?
[2009/01/16 13:35] ***LT***: slave*
[2009/01/16 13:35] ***LT***: woudl that be considered a breech of contract?
[2009/01/16 13:36] Pirate Russell: Just kind of extended the length of our relationship.... and altered the some Limits
[2009/01/16 13:37] Pirate Russell: I would hope that the Dominant and submissive could discuss things. I discuss things with ***IM***, and her sisters, ALL the time
[2009/01/16 13:37] ***KC***: the C word
[2009/01/16 13:37] ***KC***: communication
[2009/01/16 13:37] Pirate Russell: EEP!
[2009/01/16 13:37] Pirate Russell: NOT THAT!
[2009/01/16 13:37] ***SS*** giggles
[2009/01/16 13:38] ***LT***: hmm..ok
[2009/01/16 13:38] Pirate Russell: For those that are new.. JBilly, Jayce, I PREACH Communication ALL the time, every class.
[2009/01/16 13:39] ***KC*** nods
[2009/01/16 13:39] ***SS*** nods... and with good reason, I have learned.
[2009/01/16 13:39] ***JU***: TY! it is the best part of any relationship
[2009/01/16 13:39] Pirate Russell: D/s is, in fact, a Relationship, and EVERY Relationship, Lifestyle, or Vanilla, takes Communication, or they don't work
[2009/01/16 13:39] ***LT***: yes, communication is very important..when one doesnt get it..she can feel very alone
[2009/01/16 13:39] Pirate Russell: Not just alone, but lost.
[2009/01/16 13:39] ***LT*** nods.
[2009/01/16 13:40] ***JU***: yes
[2009/01/16 13:40] Pirate Russell: Not knowing what the other, wants, needs, no matter which side of the leash!
[2009/01/16 13:41] ***LT***: lost is a good term.
[2009/01/16 13:42] Pirate Russell has been there, and I'm nothing but a Domme.
[2009/01/16 13:42] Pirate Russell: I have girls that will talk to eachother, and NOT to Me
[2009/01/16 13:42] Pirate Russell: ***IM***, here is NOT one of those!
[2009/01/16 13:43] Pirate Russell: By the time I found out what's wrong it's blown up from a firecracker to a NUKE!
[2009/01/16 13:44] Pirate Russell: Anyone else got a question, comment, dirty pictures?
[2009/01/16 13:45] ***SS*** smiles
[2009/01/16 13:45] Pirate Russell: Ok, Sel, gotta share your nakey pictures!
[2009/01/16 13:45] ***LT***: Thank You , but no..it was a lovely class.
[2009/01/16 13:45] ***SS*** giggles
[2009/01/16 13:45] ***SS***: Thre are too many I think Miss Pirate
[2009/01/16 13:45] ***KC*** giggles
[2009/01/16 13:46] Pirate Russell: Well, I guess that's class dismissed!
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***JU***: Thank you Mistress
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***LT***: bye E/everyone....
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***IM***: Nakie dance at the firepit, now, Mistress?
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***KC***: thank You very much Miss Pirate.
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***SB***: thank you very much, Miss Pirate
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***LT***: time to shop....
[2009/01/16 13:47] ***SS***: Than you Miss Pirate.. I am happy this was a class that I could remain quiet for =)
[2009/01/16 13:47] Pirate Russell: Yes, ***IM***, amd maybe girl should go first
[2009/01/16 13:48] ***SB***: bye all
[2009/01/16 13:48] ***SB***: have fun
[2009/01/16 13:48] ***KC***: goodbye
[2009/01/16 13:48] ***IM*** giggles w/ ***SS***
[2009/01/16 13:48] Pirate Russell: You too, Shu
[2009/01/16 13:49] Pirate Russell: Quiet in My classes isn't good, then I have to talk! LOL
[2009/01/16 13:50] ***KC***: goodbye sis
[2009/01/16 13:51] Pirate Russell: !hug kiri
[2009/01/16 13:51] ***SS***: Well, Miss Pirate, know that when the subject does cause my tongue to run.. so will my fingers.. respectfully, of course.. but I do not have trouble asking questions =)
[2009/01/16 13:51] Pirate gives ***KC***a big hug.
[2009/01/16 13:51] ***KC***: mmmmmmmmmm
[2009/01/16 13:51] ***KC***: always good to see You Miss
[2009/01/16 13:52] ***SS***: It was again a pleasure, tahnk you very much Miss Pirate. Nice to see you again ***IM***. Take care Kiri!
[2009/01/16 13:52] Pirate gives ***SS*** a big hug.
[2009/01/16 13:52] ***SS*** is humbles "Thank you."
[2009/01/16 13:52] ***SS***: humbled*
[2009/01/16 13:52] Pirate Russell: Pish, and POSH, this is class, I'll be a Domme again in a few Min
[2009/01/16 13:53] ***SS*** smiles
[2009/01/16 13:53] ***SS*** waves as she poofs away.
[2009/01/16 13:53] ***IM***: Oh, my, Kiri.
[2009/01/16 13:53] ***KC*** giggles