Exhibitionism and Voyeurism - 10-28-08

[7:11] Pirate Russell: Ok, please take all cross talk to IM, and all collar, etc commands to the secondary channels!
[7:12] Pirate Russell: Welcome to House of V's College of Kink! As most of y'all know, My name is Pirate Russell, Head Mistress of the College, and today's instructor. I have been in SL for nearly 3 years, a lesbian Domme, the entire time.
[7:12] Pirate Russell: Today's subject is Exhibitionism and Voyeurism
[7:12] Pirate Russell: For any that need to leave early, all transcripts can be found at http://collegeofkink.blogspot.com
[7:12] Pirate Russell: EXHIBITIONISM
[7:12] Pirate Russell: The classical definition of Exhibitionism, known variously as flashing, apodysophilia and Lady Godiva syndrome, is the psychological need and pattern of behavior
[7:13] Pirate Russell: involving the exposure of parts of the body to another person with a tendency toward an extravagant, usually at least partially sexually inspired behavior
[7:13] Pirate Russell: to attract the attention of another in an open display of bare "private parts" — i.e., parts of the human body which would otherwise be left covered under clothing in nearly all other cultural circumstances
[7:13] Pirate Russell: Although neither a valid nor a reliable study, one research team asked a sample of 185 exhibitionists,
[7:13] Pirate Russell: “How would you have preferred a person to react if you were to expose your privates to him or her?”
[7:13] Pirate Russell: The most common response was “Would want to have sexual intercourse” (35.1%)
[7:14] Pirate Russell: "No reaction necessary at all” (19.5%)
[7:14] Pirate Russell: “To show their privates also” (15.1%)
[7:14] Pirate Russell: “Admiration” (14.1%)
[7:14] Pirate Russell: “Any reaction” (11.9%)
[7:14] Pirate Russell: “Anger and disgust” (3.8%)
[7:15] Pirate Russell: “Fear” (0.5)
[7:15] Pirate Russell: and in Zealot's case.. ridicule! he he
[7:15] ***PM***: lmao
[7:15] ***IM*** giggles
[7:15] ***XD***: lol
[7:15] Pirate Russell: Various types of behavior is classified as exhibitionistic. These include:
[7:15] Zealot Benmergui: I view any reaction as a clear win
[7:15] Pirate Russell: * Flashing is the display by a woman of bare breasts with an up-and-down lifting of the shirt and/or bra, or the display by a man of his bare penis.
[7:15] Pirate Russell: * Mooning is the display of one's bare buttocks — both in a sexual, exhibitionistic context (almost always by females) and also when done (usually by men) for shock value. In Australia and New Zealand this is sometimes known as a browneye.
[7:16] ***tY***: laughs
[7:16] ***IM*** laughs
[7:16] ***KK*** smiles
[7:16] Pirate Russell: * Anasyrma is lifting up of one's skirt to expose bare genitals, for varied reasons, but most often to please the exhibitionist.
[7:17] Pirate Russell: Classically, the part(s) of the body exposed when referring to "flashing" are bare female breasts and/or buttocks. In reality, however, flashing and exhibitionism more often involve the genitalia or buttocks of either gender.
[7:17] Pirate Russell: A "male flasher" stands in stark comparison to this definition as the latter usually refers to a male indecently exposing his penis to an unwilling observer.
[7:17] Pirate Russell: Women typically do not suffer such societal sanctions and are usually encouraged, even heavily paid, to engage in such behavior.
[7:17] ***CJ***: *laughs*
[7:17] Pirate Russell: Again, the classical and rigid concept paints with a broad brush and states, "Flashing is done as a momentary "thrill" to inflate the ego of the flasher while having the 'added bonus' of increasing the sexual arousal of the recipient(s)."
[7:17] ***tY***: we have flashers at the cricket, both male and female
[7:17] Pirate Russell: These stereotypical thought patterns include unproved beliefs that exhibitionists who view exhibitionism as a lifestyle as opposed to a rare thrill,
[7:18] Pirate Russell: however, more carefully select their target audience and make the exposure brief, inconspicuous and apparently unintentional.
[7:18] Pirate Russell: Some researchers invalidly postulate that all exhibitionism is, whether on the end of the giver or the receiver, ultimately a sexual fetish, many practitioners see it as an art form.
[7:18] Pirate Russell: Far less criticized are night clubs and goth bars that encourage mild exhibitionism to enhance the venue's atmosphere. This all contrasts with non-sexualized social nudity, in which the exposure is not connected with sexual expression,
[7:18] Pirate Russell: such as sunbathing or swimming at nude beaches or other participation in public nudity events where nudity is the norm. In short, the classical view of exhibitionism misses the mark by a wider margin than erroneous scientific claims about homosexuality.
[7:19] Pirate Russell: Accordingly, points must be made that define the differences between rational and irrational exhibitionism.
[7:19] ***IM***: hehe
[7:19] Pirate Russell: *Rational exhibitionists display themselves sexually to other people, singly or in groups, in appropriate settings. This can be done consensually as part of swinging or group sex.
[7:19] Pirate Russell: When not done threateningly, the intent is usually to please and sexually arouse the viewer, giving the recipient an erotic rush.
[7:19] Pirate Russell: *Irrational exhibitionists like to expose themselves in front of large crowds, typically at sporting events or streaking.
[7:19] ***tY***: laughs, that is much more fun
[7:19] Pirate Russell's skirt falls to a small pile at the floor as Pirate Russell stared deeply into Pirate Russell's eyes
[7:20] Pirate Russell: Not unlike Me!
[7:20] ***tY***: haha
[7:20] Pirate Russell: A similar irrational phenomenon is when, at the conclusion of a sporting event, a woman may flash her breasts while sitting atop someone's shoulders in a dense crowd of people.
[7:20] Pirate Russell: Rational and irrational exhibitionists like to use the internet to distribute their stories and pictures on websites, sometimes using webcam feeds and other amateur methods.
[7:20] Pirate Russell: As a major distinction, irrational exhibitionists attempt to sexually arouse the recipient by giving the impression that the exposure is "first time" and/or "innocent."
[7:20] Pirate Russell: Rational exhibitionists, instead, require an invitation from the recipient.
[7:21] ***tY***: oops, I had a wardrobe malfunction...
[7:21] Pirate Russell: Irrational exhibitionists typically lack this type of self control.
[7:21] Pirate Russell: Exhibitionistic behavior does not necessarily imply alterations of the psychiatric condition of the average, everyday individual, unless the individual does such actions compulsively
[7:21] Pirate Russell: in an effort to grab the attention s/he feels entitled to yet does not get in other aspects of life
[7:21] Pirate Russell: In psychiatry, exhibitionism is only considered a paraphilia once the practice begins to interfere with the quality of life or normal functioning capacity of the individual.
[7:21] Pirate Russell: However, if the exposing individual shows an aggressive or criminal behavior, that is indecent exposure and is a separate phenomenon from exhibitionism and flashing.
[7:22] Pirate Russell: VOYEURISM
[7:22] Pirate Russell: Voyeurism is the sexual interest in spying on people engaged in intimate behaviors, such as undressing, sexual activity, or urinating.
[7:22] Pirate Russell: In some cultures, voyeurism is considered to be deviant and even a sex crime. In the United Kingdom, non-consensual voyeurism became a criminal offense.
[7:22] Pirate Russell: However, some societies tolerate it depending upon the circumstances (e.g., adolescent "Peeping Toms" and the UK dogging craze). The stereotypical voyeur is male, although many women also enjoy being voyeurs.
[7:22] Pirate Russell: In the United States, video voyeurism is criminalized in nine states. The original case responsible for the criminalization has been made into a television movie called Video Voyeur and documents the criminalization of secret photography.
[7:23] Pirate Russell: Criminal voyeurism statutes are related to invasion of privacy laws but are specific to unlawful surreptitious surveillance without consent and unlawful recordings
[7:23] Pirate Russell: including the broadcast, dissemination, publication, or selling of recordings involving places and times when a person has a reasonable expectation of privacy and a reasonable supposition that he or she is not being photographed
[7:23] Pirate Russell: or filmed by "any mechanical, digital or electronic viewing device, camera or any other instrument capable of recording, storing or transmitting visual images that can be utilized to observe a person."
[7:23] Pirate Russell: While some think Voyeurism is a crime, or a perversion, some of us think it's just fun!
[7:24] Pirate Russell: Quesitons, Comments?
[7:24] ***IM*** giggles
[7:24] Pirate Russell: Again, all transcripts can be found at http://collegeofkink.blogspot.com
[7:24] Pirate Russell: College of Kink classes Monday, Tuesday & Thursday @ 7a, and Friday 1p.
[7:24] Pirate Russell: Y/you would always check the Search/Events and look for the word College
[7:24] Pirate Russell: SpeakEasy HUD detaching...
[7:25] ***tY***: I wonder how much of the element of arousal is removed in voyeurism if it is consentual?
[7:25] ***IM***: Apparently neither is a crime in SL, though, hehe
[7:25] Zealot Benmergui: I have a question
[7:25] Pirate Russell: "C'mon with the questions
[7:25] Zealot Benmergui: if I take a screen cap of you now, will you sign it?
[7:26] Zealot Benmergui: *smiles
[7:26] Pirate Russell: It is frowned on in PG areas of course, and LOTS of clubs don't allow it
[7:26] Pirate Russell: For a price, Z, for a price!
[7:26] Zealot Benmergui: damn...knew that
[7:26] Pirate Russell: And I'm close to alabama, I'd just make an "X" anyway!
[7:26] ***IM*** laughs
[7:26] ***tY***: lol
[7:27] ***IM***: What is it called when one likes to undress others to expose them?
[7:27] ***tY***: domination..lol
[7:27] Pirate Russell: ***IM*** that's called Tuesday!
[7:27] Zealot Benmergui: Rageddy Annism
[7:27] ***tY***: laughs
[7:27] Pirate Russell: Ok, c'mon wth the questions or I'll get dressed!
[7:28] ***tY***: has anyone flashed in RL?
[7:28] ***tY***: there is a question for you
[7:28] Zealot Benmergui: Regarding exhibitionism...do you feel the taboo nature is more attached to the act of being exposed, or the act of someone seeing?
[7:28] Pirate Russell raises Her hand, REPEATEDLY!
[7:28] ***IM***: girl was serious. Is it a seperate thing, or is it just exibitionist?
[7:28] ***XD***: i have as a teenager
[7:29] ***tY***: the act of someone seeing
[7:29] Pirate Russell: Ahh, sorry ***IM***, I'll get back to that
[7:29] ***tY***: (raises hand as a streaker)
[7:29] ***IM*** blushes and raises her hand
[7:30] Pirate Russell: I think it's both, Z. the act of taking away the safety of clothing is SCARY as hell, and I'm always, er one would always, be worried aobut someone LAUGHING their ass off
[7:31] ***KK*** raises hand with a question
[7:31] Pirate Russell: And, back to ***IM***'s question, I thinkg ithat's different, that's more control, and using My property as I see fit
[7:31] Pirate Russell: Yes, ***KK***?
[7:31] ***KK***: Pirate, Would you consider strip clubs a form of voyeurism, exhibitionism or both?
[7:32] Pirate Russell: That and more, I've known strippers, and it's both that, and the conrol the dancer has over the crowd, showing what she wants, and then there's some pretty big money!
[7:32] ***KK*** nods and smiles
[7:34] Pirate Russell: Anyone else?
[7:35] Pirate Russell: Anything else
[7:35] Pirate Russell: Questions?
[7:35] Pirate Russell: Comments?!
[7:35] ***IM***: Why the big difference between acceptance of men versus women flashing?
[7:36] Pirate Russell: Something I've wondered a lot and I think I have a handle on it... so to speak
[7:36] Pirate Russell: first men are generally more visually stimulated than women, as evidenced by 33 gillion porno magazines, and 1 playgirl.
[7:37] Pirate Russell: Secondly, most men are at least partially homophobic, maybe not to the point of doing or saying something, but would look away, etc
[7:37] Pirate Russell: or be .... 'uncomfy'....
[7:39] ***KK***: Thank you for the class and information Pirate. Have a great day. ((***KK*** wonders "Is it still safe to walk out?" as he eyes the crowd))
[7:39] Pirate Russell: It's similar to why male homosexuality is gross, and lesbianism is 65% of the internet
[7:39] Pirate Russell: yes, ***KK***, we're fairly informal here,
[7:39] ***IA***: men seem to watch pornvideos tho, and not shy away from the guy performing?
[7:40] ***PM***: *cough* rape! *cough*
[7:40] Pirate Russell: But are they usually performing as a hetero couple?
[7:40] Zealot Benmergui: That depends...women will watch a scene between two women, and most will watch two men, depending on the style
[7:40] Pirate Russell: or a solo male waging-his-weenie?
[7:40] Zealot Benmergui: few straight men will watch two men in a sex scene
[7:41] ***tY***: men are always worried about who is going to be the batter
[7:41] Zealot Benmergui: and who is going to be the prawn?
[7:41] ***tY***: laughs
[7:41] Pirate Russell: he he
[7:41] ***IM***: prawn?
[7:42] ***tY***: battered prawns
[7:42] Pirate Russell: Mmmmm.... getting close to lunch here!! he he
[7:42] ***IM*** heads to google
[7:42] ***JM***: prawn = another word for shrimp
[7:42] ***PM***: god, the visual (back to the scene)
[7:42] ***TS***: bah, getting close to heading back to bed here
[7:42] Pirate Russell: Like a scalop, hun
[7:42] ***PM***: that is just *wrong*
[7:42] ***IM***: oh.
[7:42] ***tY***: prawn the correct name for those things some of you call shrimps. ;)
[7:43] Zealot Benmergui: well, prawns are big shrimp
[7:43] ***PM***: *cough* felcher *cough*
[7:43] Zealot Benmergui: like a normal person is a tall midget
[7:43] Pirate Russell whispers: Hmmm... "jumbo prawn" sounds MUCH better than "Jumbo Shrimp
[7:43] Pirate Russell: "
[7:43] Pirate Russell: Anyway.... he he
[7:43] ***KB*** makes a note to head to the store and get ***PM*** some cough medicine
[7:43] ***IM*** need to take the vocabulary class next.
[7:43] ***tY***: chuck another prawn on the barbie luv
[7:43] Zealot Benmergui: and why is it talk of gay men having sex always progresses into a discussion of seafood?
[7:44] ***IA***: oh, i join ya, ***IM*** :)
[7:44] ***tY***: 9said in aussie accent.. sorry couldn't resist)
[7:44] ***tY***: haha
[7:44] Pirate Russell throws a shellfish on Her daughter's Barbie-doll, not seeing the draw!
[7:44] ***tY***: laughs
[7:44] Zealot Benmergui: Ken likes it
[7:45] Pirate Russell: Not if it smells like fish!
[7:45] ***tY***: (now where did I put those cuffs?)
[7:45] Pirate Russell: :"voyeurs" at ***XD***'s exhibiton.. he he
[7:46] ***XD***: snickers
[7:46] ***tY***: thanks for the talk Miss Pirate, I need to go
[7:46] ***tY***: stands and waves
[7:46] Pirate Russell: Ok, te, thanks for coming
[7:47] ***IA***: thanks Pirate!
[7:47] Pirate Russell: Comments, Questions, Dirty Jokes?
[7:48] Zealot Benmergui: Regarding Nudism
[7:48] Pirate Russell: Yessir?
[7:48] Zealot Benmergui: if you are in a situation where everyone is nude, does that still work as voyeurism/exhibition...is the thrill the same do you think?
[7:49] Zealot Benmergui: in situations that are similar to that I have been in, acknowledgment of the fact someone is nude is frowned upon..as is most sexual response...which can get tricky
[7:49] Pirate Russell: Not for Me, My best fun being naked is going to a club and being one of the few, if not only, one naked. AND in theme of the event...
[7:49] ***IM***: is there no sexual element to nudists?
[7:49] ***IM***: if everyone is nude, that is.
[7:49] Zealot Benmergui: Most nudists try to discourage it, since the mainstream view is they are just sex camps
[7:50] Pirate Russell: Yes, just like a sexual element to any other group. Nudists are grand parents, plumbers, lawyers, etc
[7:50] Pirate Russell: and most nudist resorts admit children
[7:50] Zealot Benmergui: I found myself looking at a lot of women's hair styles
[7:51] Pirate Russell: You get used to it after awhile, even the voyeuristic thrill of 'chaste' hugs
[7:51] Pirate Russell: except for the guy that can carry a dozen donuts and a cup of coffee in eac hhand
[7:51] Zealot Benmergui: I was told by long term enthusiasts you got used to it, never really noticed people's bodies...but I am still dubious
[7:52] Pirate Russell: Most clubs and resorts request you cover an erection if you get one, however
[7:52] Zealot Benmergui: offering thimbles for that purpose
[7:53] ***IM***: No doughnuts?
[7:53] Zealot Benmergui: glazed jelly perhaps
[7:53] Pirate Russell: NOT Creme-filled, though
[7:53] Zealot Benmergui: maple bars
[7:55] ***IM***: If men are more likely to be voyuers, who are more likely to be exibitionists?
[7:55] Pirate Russell: I would GUESS it's about even. Just more accepted for women to be widly seen.
[7:57] ***GG***: have to leave. thank you for the lecture
[7:58] Pirate Russell: I think I'll call class dismissed, unless anyone has anything else
[7:59] ***RT***a: *smiles her thanks to Miss and waves her farewell*
7:59] Pirate Russell: He he
[7:59] ***KB*** winks
[8:00] Zealot Benmergui: Thank you Boss..well done
[8:00] Pirate Russell: Thanks y'all for coming classes this week, Thur 7a, and Fri 1p
[8:00] ***KC***: thank YOu Miss for a great discussion
[8:00] ***IA*** sighs "i've been so long out of classes, i dont know the correct protocol anymore, do i wink, or clap? or wave? :P"
[8:00] ***TS***: Thank you!
[8:00] ***IM***: Just strip and smile, Miss ***IA***.
[8:01] ***PM***: depends on how many donuts I suppose
[8:01] ***IA*** laughs softly "i guess i leave that to the pretty one in front of me!"
[8:01] ***KB***: hehe
[8:01] Pirate Russell: Just join us for the group sex back @ My place!
[8:02] Zealot Benmergui: See, now why don;t I ever get that offer...sexist, that's what it is
[8:02] ***IA*** suddenly remembers a pressing engagement! :P
[8:02] ***KB*** grabs ***IA***'s hand firmly
[8:02] ***IM***: pressing? mmmhmm.
[8:02] ***KB***: i dont recall such a thing!
[8:03] Pirate Russell: girl has missed dome classes
[8:03] ***IA***: yes, like the rabiit, who's followied by Alice
[8:03] Pirate Russell: Oh, Mr Farmer, don't throw Me into the Pirate patch!
[8:03] ***IM*** giggles
[8:03] ***KC*** grins
[8:03] ***KC***: well this girl is headed back to bed.
[8:04] ***KC***: great discussion Miss
[8:04] Pirate Russell: my new favorite!
[8:05] ***KC***: see Yoou soon Miss
[8:05] Pirate Russell: What?!?!
[8:05] Pirate Russell: you SEE Me NOW!
[8:05] ***IM***: bye ***KC***.
[8:05] Pirate Russell: he he
[8:05] ***IA*** wiggles hand free from ***KB***rs and gasps a bit!
[8:05] ***IM*** giggles
[8:06] Pirate Russell reeaches over and yanks off ***KB***'s skirt, too
[8:06] Pirate Russell: Flimsy latex, doesn't stay on well, @ all!
[8:06] ***IA*** grins and shifts a bit closer to ***KB***rs
[8:06] ***KB*** squeaks! "it's all Yez's fault ***IA***! she buttered girl up"
[8:07] ***IA***: yes, bad stuff that latex...
[8:07] ***IA***: you got stuck in IMs!
[8:07] Pirate Russell: Ahhh... GOOD friends, ***IA***, or just wanna be? he he
[8:07] ***IA***: and it was grease
[8:07] ***KB***: same difference!
[8:07] ***KB***: made girl slippery either way
[8:08] ***IA***: oh, we're just good friends, i suppose. ***KB***rs isnt into taily racoons 8 years her younger!
[8:08] Pirate Russell knows from personal experience, that THAT'S not what makes girl *slippery*!
[8:08] ***KB*** blushes
[8:08] ***IA*** laughs
[8:09] ***KB***: but...
[8:09] ***KB***: well it's new latex! already well oiled!
[8:09] ***IA*** nudges ***KB***rs "hush girl, you gonna loose this badly"
[8:10] ***KB***: already lost the clothes... not much more girl can lose right?
[8:10] ***KB*** giggles
[8:10] ***IM*** giggles
[8:10] ***IA*** grins
[8:11] Pirate Russell: And as far as girl's being stripped, this is about exhibitionism, not forced nudity
[8:12] Pirate Russell: Well, My friends, I have some Family business to attend to.... ***IM*** I'l send for girl, shortly
[8:12] Pirate Russell: Nice to SEE girl again ***KB***, and you , too, ***IA***!
[8:12] ***KB*** reaches over and wraps arms around ***IA***, rubbing boobies all over her
[8:12] ***IM***: Is being around Mistress considered exibitionism, because sooner or later one will wind up naked?